My boyfriend is a smoker and since we got together he’s trying to quite smoking. I completely support him for the obvious reasons. But I am a little bit concerned that he might change. When my father stopped smoking a couple years ago he kind of changed. He became nervous some how aggressive, and even his ideas about many things changed.
So what do you think?
Am sorry the mistake ‘quit’ !
It seems to me that since he quit a few years ago, the likelihood is that you’re getting older and are becoming progressively more aware of his behaviors and that your father is getting older. When people get older, their character traits and bad habits tend to get worse and more extreme. While in the short term, your boyfriend will likely become irritable and cranky due to nicotine withdrawl, I doubt the changes will be long lasting or permanent. Be patient with him and supportive and everything will be alright.
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December 18th, 2009 at 9:20 pm
My dad quit seven years ago and nothing has changed. I guess it depends.
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December 18th, 2009 at 9:50 pm
some people do my parents became frustrated at eachother more. short tempered i would say!
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December 18th, 2009 at 10:21 pm
it varies…
when I quit, at first I was angry
after awhile I became very calm and patient
I am that way today
it will be 5 yrs in March……so yes, tolerate everything until things even out……..
in the end, it’s worth it!
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December 18th, 2009 at 11:09 pm
well my boyfriend and i just quit on new years because we’re having a baby and to tell you the truth he seems the same and i feel the same. i’m no pissier than normal….:-)
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December 18th, 2009 at 11:23 pm
first of all FYI its "quit". second of all, nicotine is a pretty strong chemical. they are dependent on it. it will "change" him temporarily, as with any rebound, you are aggressive because you feel you need something. but eventually, he will go back to normal and even be happier because he doesn’t have to worry about cigarettes. encourage him to do it!
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December 18th, 2009 at 11:38 pm
definitely, i’d become too aggressive towards my family and friends
so i quit on giving up ciggies, maybe at a later point in my life
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December 19th, 2009 at 12:28 am
Smoking calms people, if they are forced to quit and smoked a lot they will get quite irritable and short tempered.
Those that were occasional ie social smokers don’t get that way they can substitute with alcohol or candy.
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December 19th, 2009 at 1:07 am
People that quit cold turkey are more apt to have their personality affected. If one feels deprived after quitting, they are more likely to be grouchy, so it helps if they have a true desire to reap the benefits of quitting rather than feeling they have quit just in order to please others. I recommend using behavior modification techniques that deal with the mental aspects of the habit as well as the physical ones. I can’t really understand how someone’s ideas would change except as they relate to health issues.
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December 19th, 2009 at 1:22 am
im a smoker who has tried to quit on several occasions! its very hard its more that nicotene. its emotional for alot of ppl it isnt only a addiction but a security blanket. just stand by your man and if its meant to be things will only change for the better. good luck!
peace and love.
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December 19th, 2009 at 1:44 am
This is a good question. My boyfriend smokes too and whenever he is around me he doesnt have the urge to. Its what they do when they are stressed out so maybe if he finds some other way to relieve stress he wont change. Quitting is a very hard thing, but my father quit smoking for my stepmom many years ago and hes fine.
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December 19th, 2009 at 1:50 am
Stopping someone from smoking causes their body to have withdrawal symptoms. This usually includes aggression, anxiety, impatience, loss of appetite and hyperactivity.
Whether your boyfriend would change his attitude towards you, depends on his character. Does he have a strong backbone and is very self aware of the changes around him? Or is he the type to be easily influenced by the crowds?(Such people are less self aware and may change without knowing).
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December 19th, 2009 at 2:22 am
Because smoke has a major influence on the brain. It controls the cells and take full control of the body.
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December 19th, 2009 at 2:40 am
yes theyre real irratable, edgey, and they tend to eat more and gain weight, as for his ideas and what he’s thinking mentally, i wouldnt know smoking is an addiction…so.
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December 19th, 2009 at 2:48 am
It seems to me that since he quit a few years ago, the likelihood is that you’re getting older and are becoming progressively more aware of his behaviors and that your father is getting older. When people get older, their character traits and bad habits tend to get worse and more extreme. While in the short term, your boyfriend will likely become irritable and cranky due to nicotine withdrawl, I doubt the changes will be long lasting or permanent. Be patient with him and supportive and everything will be alright.
Look at the sources I listed below for more info.
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http://www.quittersguide.com/withdrawal-symptoms.shtml
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/000953.htm
http://www.stop-smoking-tips.com/stop-smoking-psychological-recovery1.html