My boyfriend is 17 and has been smoking cigarettes for a year now, only one or two a day, but last night we discussed in a very emotional conversation that we mutually want to help him quit smoking, as his girlfriend, what are some things I can do to be supportive in his time of need and what can I do to help? What are some things that will help him kick the habit?
He’s also trying to stop smoking marajuana, which is easier for him.
Thank you.
Yes, his friends all smoke aswell, he hangs out with the "stoners" I guess you could say, which is a big factor but I can’t change that. He really wants to quit for me.
He needs to change his habits. If he normally smokes first thing in the morning he needs to do something else during that time and make new habits. He needs to decide that this is what he really wants and just do it. He needs to avoid others that smoke for a while, skip the parties and such where smoking happens. You can support him by making other plans with him so he doesn’t feel completely left out as the non-smoker. I say this because I am assuming he isn’t the only one smoking, most of his friends do as well. This is what worked for me. My tipping point was when my 3 year old brother started to pretend he was smoking. That really crushed me and gave me a reason to quit. He needs a good reason too, doing it for his health isn’t normally good enough.
How can I help and support my teenage boyfriend to stop smoking?
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November 28th, 2009 at 10:36 pm
chew that stop smoking gum with him
and encourage him to get those support system things with the patches that you put on your arm nicoderm i think
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November 28th, 2009 at 10:41 pm
An emotional conversation? No offense or anything but if hes only smoking 1 or 2 a day hes not even hooked, and shouldnt have much trouble just droppin it completely. I use to smoke a full pack myself but have managed to cut it down to half and it wasn’t easy. 1 or 2 a day could be considered jus smoking socially or hes just tryin to make you feel sorry for him..
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November 28th, 2009 at 11:21 pm
He needs to change his habits. If he normally smokes first thing in the morning he needs to do something else during that time and make new habits. He needs to decide that this is what he really wants and just do it. He needs to avoid others that smoke for a while, skip the parties and such where smoking happens. You can support him by making other plans with him so he doesn’t feel completely left out as the non-smoker. I say this because I am assuming he isn’t the only one smoking, most of his friends do as well. This is what worked for me. My tipping point was when my 3 year old brother started to pretend he was smoking. That really crushed me and gave me a reason to quit. He needs a good reason too, doing it for his health isn’t normally good enough.
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November 28th, 2009 at 11:48 pm
tell him u cARE ABOUT HIM
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November 29th, 2009 at 12:04 am
You should watch the show ‘Intervention’ on A&E. Often during the Intervention, people tell their loved one what will change if they don’t get help for their addiction. Tell your boyfriend that you will be there for him and do anything for him as long as he is staying smoke-free. However, explain to him that there will be consequences if he doesn’t stop. (It doesn’t have to be as extreme as breaking up with him, but make sure it is a consequence that he is not willing to risk.)
If nothing else, the medical facts, the fact that he is underage (and therefore has to get someone to buy his cigarettes or have a fake id), and in general the amount of money he is wasting on cigarettes and weed, should be enough to get him to stop.
GOOD LUCK!
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