My best friend is in a lot of trouble she skipped out on probation for a year. Now she wants to clean up her act and turn herself in. She has been smoking weed with her bf for over a year. She quit 3 weeks ago to clean her system before she turns herself in. Her bf on the other hand won’t stop and keeps smoking in front of her and letting his friends smoke and make fun of her. Even the people she works with smoke weed as well. She says it’s hard to stop because people around her do it. Plus her bf keeps asking her for money all the time. He’s on ssi and he uses his monthly check on rent,child support and his son to go to the school of rock. So he is broke entirely so he demands his gf to give him 300 a month plus pay for his utilities. I think he is using her he even tells her he don’t care about her. Her grandmother and I are trying to convince her to leave him. She keeps saying she’s codependent. But why stay in a relationship with a man who doesn’t respect you and just use you. She’s 29 he’s 56 she likes them old don’t ask me why. lol
well she has probation so she can’t smoke weed it would make things bad with the court. Weed maybe harmless but its aginst the law. She is in trouble with the law that’s why she needs to keep clean or she will get intouble.
There is nothing wrong with weed if she starts doing crack or heroin then i would worry but marijuana is a thousand times less harmfull than alcohol or ciggaretes
My best friend is trying to stop smoking weed but her bf won’t support her.?
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November 27th, 2009 at 6:44 pm
tell her to ditch him
its seriously for the better
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November 27th, 2009 at 6:56 pm
There is nothing wrong with weed if she starts doing crack or heroin then i would worry but marijuana is a thousand times less harmfull than alcohol or ciggaretes
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November 27th, 2009 at 7:04 pm
You need to sit her down and tell her she is ruining her life. The only way she can help herself is to ditch him. I know it is going to hurt her and it’s going to suck and that’s where you need to be there for her as much as possible. If she is serious about cleaning up her act, then when you talk to her she will understand. Tell her you’re willing to help her as much as possible.
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November 27th, 2009 at 7:30 pm
The fairly obvious answer is she needs to pack up her bags and leave him, and never again have contact with him again. He’s a bad influence on her, and no matter how much housecleaning she does with her life, the place will still stink unless she kicks the rats out too.
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November 27th, 2009 at 8:17 pm
He’s using her, and evident ally her low self-esteem is allowing him to do so. You can’t make her do anything, but turning herself in might be a good thing. She needs counseling, too. Be careful of yourself that she doesn’t pull you down.
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November 27th, 2009 at 8:35 pm
If a 56 year old smokes weed…he’s going now where..DUH! …the reason why shes with him is because she is the type that ALWAYS needs someone by her side..find her someone better and have them hang out in a group. take her mind off the 56 year old..btw, smoking weed is not bad as long as you can keep your goals straight…He also is using her for money and probably her body…
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November 27th, 2009 at 8:48 pm
Well, she’s taken the first step to leaving, admitting there’s a problem. She knows she’s co-dependent, now she has to work on realizing, it’s not a good thing. If her boyfriend isn’t supportive, especially when it’s something so good for her, he’s not worth the 300 a month! Tell her that if she’s serious about cleaning up her act, she should start with the most obvious problem, her boyfriend. She needs to get away from anything that is a bad influence, friends, boyfriend, co-workers, family, whomever is bringing her down. She’s really got to give it her all, or else she’ll fail.
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November 27th, 2009 at 9:30 pm
Then she needs to lose him!
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November 27th, 2009 at 10:07 pm
Yes your friend should leave this so called boy friend of hers!! If she is living with him I would tell her to see if she can stay with her grandmother for a little while to get on her feet. She should stay away from people that smoke weed if she wants to better herself. In dealing with the people she works with she should avoid them or let management know of what is going on! If she stays in the environment she is in she will more likely go back to smoking weed. Her boyfriend is using her there is NO doubt about it!!
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